Morning Y'all
Okay, so here is my final post as Ani Witter/aka my alter-ego
I quit because I got a raise at my other job. Therefore, I no longer need the extra money at the strip club to survive. But mostly, I got a huge push-back from my community of friends because I was working at the strip club.
For multiple reasons...
So here is what I heard from people...
1)It's demeaning
2)It's wrong
3)The club is taking too much cut from the girls earnings
4)If you keep working here, you will become like them
5)People working here can't have meaningful relationships
6)It will ruin your future career
7)The descent into this community is a bend and not a break.
8) GROSS
Let me address all of these issues. Here is what I have to say.
1) It's demeaning
I have worked many many jobs and I see no difference stuffing envelopes for 5 hours a day as any less demeaning as cleaning a stage as a waitress at strip club. Just saying. It's a useless job that someone has to do. You just have to wear a different outfit to do it.
2) It's wrong.
My first response to this is.... how? I'm sorry. I don't understand. People are sexual beings. Everyone has their kicks or what they want. No better or no worse than any other (bar pedophilia). This is just a place that accepts it. That accepts kicks and kinks. And frankly, what I've realized from working here is that lots and lots of people have strange frickin fetishes and kinks. They just don't talk about it. Thank you world for showing me.
And for the people reading this blog, let me tell you. You are normal. You are completely and totally normal. All of you. (I've seen it all). Because there are all types out there. Just figure out what you want and be okay with it. Maybe communicate it with your spouse. Ten bucks says they are okay with it too. This means you my favorite CEO's. Religious clergy, Political scientists, Artists, Writers, Scientists, PR folks, Musicians, Programers, Insurance people, Lawyers, Professors, IT gurus, Counselors, Professors, Teachers, Executives, Peace Corps workers, Nurses, CNA's, Doctors, Anthropologists, Archaeologists, Game designers, Linguists, Architects, Service Men and Women, Farmers, Actresses, Actors, Captains, Bouncers, Strippers, Waitresses, Receptionists, Paralegals, Travelers, HR Representatives and all the many more of you out there who I know and love...
(There are so many more of you. P.S. All of you)
I will never tell who you are or what your secrets are. But I just want you to know that you are normal. Seriously, you are normal. Maybe tell your spouse. Personally, I'm not a fan of secrets.
But in case you are wondering, (Mostly) yes I know your secrets. And I love you anyway. Maybe more for your imperfections. So does everyone else. And no one cares.
3) The Club is taking too much from the girls earnings
Washington State does not allow alcohol in strip clubs. So, the club has to charge more from the girls' earnings than any other state in order to make up for the lack of revenue.
But yep. I think clubs totally exploit women for the money they earn. However, the clubs provide the women a 'safer' place than they would have otherwise. There are bouncers who I personally know and trust to throw their life on the line to protect. No matter what. God bless you amazing amazing guys.
The managers are under pressure to earn more money. So, they have to exploit the girls in order to keep their jobs. So, if you are going to blame anyone. Blame the corporation itself. Blame the owners who enact the rules and regulations to keep money flowing. Don't blame the poor girls who did whatever they could to earn money. Blame the CEO's who control it.
4) If you keep working here you will become like them (The strippers that is)
Let me tell ya.
Strippers are just like any other person. They are just people. Some kind, some smart, some mean...etc. These girls have just been exposed to this life and they embraced it.
If you feel you are special because you have learned something like religious work or IT or programming, or anything else meaningful.... let me tell you. You have been lucky enough to have been born to a family to provide you with that (or support you with that) or else been lucky enough to have been born in an area that supports that. Regardless of what you might think of your family or your area. You were.
Everyone is capable of learning.... anything. It just depends on where you were born or if you had enough to eat, if your family was somewhat functional or if you were lucky enough to have someone to believe in you (And many more factors). Regardless of what you might think of your family, if you are reading this post, you were lucky to have something more. DO NOT FORGET THAT.
You were loved.
5) People working here can't have meaningful relationships
Bullshit. Your lover or love of your life should meet you in your crazy and the hardship (my friend who worked in a dive of a motel where there was some hard core cheating.... I'm looking at you) Y'all know what I'm talking about. Love is what it is. It doesn't matter where you are (For the most part)
Even if it's checking people into motels to cheat or waiting people at a strip club or dancing on them for money.
You and your partner will meet each other in honesty and truth. No matter what that entails. Some of you might be okay with strip clubs. Some of you might be into open relationships. Some of you might not. That's okay. Just be honest with each other. Just always tell the truth. No one will know your own relationship better than yourself.
But just for the record.
KEEP THAT SHIT AS PRIVATE A POSSIBLE.
Just keep it private. Even if it's with an ex. Just keep is private. I'm serious. It should not and does not need to be shared.
6) It will ruin your future career
This is true. No questions asked. If you want to become a stripper, you must register as a sex worker. And that check could possibly ruin your career.
7) The descent into this community is a bend and not a break.
Truth. Adapting to any community is not a break. It's a bend. It's a slow slow bend. So be careful who you surround yourself with. Absolutely anything in life is a bend...not a break whether that is atheism, religion, work, drinking/partying, stoners, red-necks, liberals, Republicans, Hungarians, Germans, Koreans, Americans, intellectualism, readers, writers, microsoft workers, SMA-ers, strippers, waitresses, politicians, intellectuals.... etc.
Let me tell ya, it doesn't matter. It is just what you are born into/ what you are exposed to.
So, be careful what you are exposed to and who you surround yourself with. Because people are people. All flawed and perfect at the same time. All worth loving.
8) GROSS
Pardon? What's gross? I don't understand.
Strip clubs are an industry just like any other. The only unfortunate thing about strip clubs is that it isn't a sustainable career. Most strippers must retire before 35... 40 if they are lucky. For the rest of us, we will be able to retire much later in life and for the most part have a sustainable income for the vast majority of our time here.
Strippers are not into it. It's a job just like any other. They work hard at it. Just as hard as you and me. The only thing is that it is more acceptable for them to do drugs and drink to forget about the pain of not doing their job well. To forget about the rejection. Cause let's face it.... everyone makes mistakes at their job. It's just more okay for them to do drugs and drink. It's not for us.
If you have questions or wish for me to elaborate, let me know. I'll expand.
